Monday 26 May 2008

一种善良

朋友用餐時,發現熱氣騰騰的面裏,赫然躺著一只蟑螂。
她立刻找來攤主,那人還強詞奪理:"蟑螂有腳嘛,我哪裏知道它什麽時候爬進去的。"

氣憤難平的她撥了一通電話,向衛生管理部門投訴,對方要求她報上攤主的確切資料,以展開調查。
此時,她突然猶豫了,推說會再撥電話告知。

實際上,她始終沒撥出第二通電話。

"爲什麽?"我大惑不解。

朋友平靜地說:"想想看,那個攤主也四十多歲了,上有老,下有小,如果讓他停業整頓,一家老小的生活必定會陷入窘境。況且,我在他那裏也是第一次遇到這種事,也許他是一時疏忽,經過這一次,他會留意的。"

"如果他再犯呢?"

"若是再讓我遇到,"朋友沖我一笑,"當然會毫不留情地舉報。"


想起有一回,跟先生去國外旅遊。一位老婦向我們推銷紀念品,我施展殺價功夫,把售價從五元殺到一元。
正興高采烈要付錢時,先生突然掏出錢包,按照五元一個的價錢買下那紀念品。

當時,我相當惱火,先生卻說:"一個八十多歲的老人家,冒著寒風,到處奔波賺點兒錢,容易嗎?"

所謂善良,不一定是做出驚天動地的大事,凡事多設身處地爲別人著想,心存忍讓,不介意自己吃虧,也是一種善良。

Friday 23 May 2008

Love definition 爱情的定义 愛情的定義

The road to a lover's house is never long.
通往爱人家里的路总不会漫长。
通往愛人家裡的路總不會漫長。

Why do the good girls, always want the bad boys?
为何好女孩总喜欢坏男孩?
為何好女孩總喜歡壞男孩?

Being with you is like walking on a very clear morning.
和你在一起就像在一个清爽的早晨漫步。
和你在一起就像在一個清爽的早晨漫步。

It is never too late to fall in love.
爱永远不会嫌晚。
愛永遠不會嫌晚。

If I had a single flower for every time I think about you, I could walk forever in my garden.
假如每次想起你我都会得到一朵鲜花,那么我将永远在花丛中徜徉。
假如每次想起你我都會得到一朵鮮花,那麼我將永遠在花叢中徜徉。

To the world you may be just one person. To the person you may be the world.
对于世界,你可能只是一个人,但对于某个人,你却是整个世界。
對於世界,你可能只是一個人,但對於某個人,你卻是整個世界。

Where there is love, there are always wishes.
哪里有爱,哪里就有希望。
哪裡有愛,哪裡就有希望。

Love is something eternal; the aspect may change, but not the essence.
爱是永恒的,外表可能改变,但本质永远不变。
愛是永恆的,外表可能改變,但本質永遠不變。

Love is not a matter of counting the days. It's making the days count.
爱情不是数着日子过去,它让每个日子都变得有意义。
愛情不是數著日子過去,它讓每個日子都變得有意義。

With the wonder of your love, the sun above always shines.
拥有你美丽的爱情,太阳就永远明媚。
擁有你美麗的愛情,太陽就永遠明媚。

Love is a fabric that nature wove and fantasy embroidered.
爱情是一方织巾,用自然编织,用幻想点缀。
愛情是一方織巾,用自然編織,用幻想點綴。

First love is unforgettable all one's life.
初恋是永生难忘的。
初戀是永生難忘的。

In the very smallest cot there is room enough for a loving pair.
哪怕是最小的茅舍,对一对恋人来说都有足够的空间。
哪怕是最小的茅舍,對一對戀人來說都有足夠的空間。

But if the while I think on thee, dear friend, all losses are restored, and sorrows end.
只要我一想起你,亲爱的人,所有的失落和遗憾烟消云散。
只要我一想起你,親愛的人,所有的失落和遺憾煙消雲散。

Love without end hath no end.
情绵绵,爱无边。
情綿綿,愛無邊。

Love's tongue is in the eyes.
爱情的话语全在双眼之中。
愛情的話語全在雙眼之中。

There is no hiding from lover's eyes.
什么也瞒不过恋人的眼睛。
什麼也瞞不過戀人的眼睛。

The only present love demands is love.
爱所祈求的唯一礼物就是爱。
愛所祈求的唯一禮物就是愛。

The heart that once truly loves never forgets.
真挚恋爱过的心永不忘却。
真摯戀愛過的心永不忘卻。

Love warms more than a thousand fires.
爱情的炽热胜过千万团的火。
愛情的熾熱勝過千萬團的火。

Your smiling at me is my daily dose of magic.
你嫣然的微笑是我每日享受到的魅力。
你嫣然的微笑是我每日享受到的魅力。

Your kiss still burns on my lips, everyday of mine is so beautiful.
你的吻还在我的唇上发烫,从此我的日子变得如此美丽。
你的吻還在我的唇上發燙,從此我的日子變得如此美麗。

Love understands love; it needs no talk.
相爱的心息息相通,无需用言语倾诉。
相愛的心息息相通,無需用言語傾訴。

Love me little and love me long.
不求情意绵绵,但求天长地久。
不求情意綿綿,但求天長地久。

When the words "I love you" were said by you for the first time, my world blossoms.
第一次听到你对我说"我爱你",我的世界一瞬间鲜花绽开。
第一次聽到你對我說"我愛你",我的世界一瞬間鮮花綻開。

Tell me you are mine. I'll be yours through all the years, till the end of time.
请告诉我你是我的。岁岁年年,我都属于你,永远永远。
請告訴我你是我的。歲歲年年,我都屬於你,永遠永遠。

Love is a fire which burns unseen.
爱情是无形燃烧的火焰。
愛情是無形燃燒的火焰。

I feel happy at times we have had angry words but these have been kissed away.
我们生气争执时,爱的双唇把它们吻得无影无踪,我的心也顿觉甜蜜。
我們生氣爭執時,愛的雙唇把它們吻得無影無踪,我的心也頓覺甜蜜。

You cannot appreciate happiness unless you have known sadness too.
不知道什么是忧伤,就不会真正感激幸福。
不知道什麼是憂傷,就不會真正感激幸福。

First impression of you is most lasting.
对你最初的印象,久久难以忘怀。
對你最初的印象,久久難以忘懷。

Rules of Life

TRUST

We all need a gentle reminder once in a while, hope this gives you the lift you need.
TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, 'Public Utilities Board.' There was silence. She repeated, 'PUB.' There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, 'Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is.'

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just 'hello' instead of 'PUB'.



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NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, 'Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?'
The father-in-law answered in a smile, 'Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you.'

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.



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CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested 'I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one.' The SDU officer said, 'Your requirements, please.' 'Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest.' The officer listened carefully and replied, 'I understand you need television.'

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up a and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.



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NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that 'It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character.'

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..



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RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that 'A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation.' Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, 'Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school.' On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, 'Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker.' She answered,' You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you.'

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.



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PERSONAL PERCEPTION

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, 'Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? 'Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, 'The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?' Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, 'How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.'
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, 'Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.' Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a near row bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..



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BE PATIENT

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery and saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, 'Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck.' Then he asked, 'but when are my fingers going to grow back?' The father went home & committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.




'Good Life starts only when you stop wanting a better One'
'Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.'